How do you survive the holidays in a long-distance relationship?

The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but for people in a long-distance relationship (LDR), they can be so hard. While others are cuddling by the fire, you might be dealing with time zone differences, missed calls, and missing your partner(s). But just because you're apart doesn’t mean you can’t feel close. Here are some tips for surviving during the holidays in an LDR.

1. Plan Virtual Celebrations

Thank goodness for FaceTime, right? It's really easy to schedule a video call and decorate trees together, open gifts, or have a holiday meal. Setting aside intentional moments help make the holidays feel less lonely. 

2. Send Care Packages

There’s something special about receiving a physical gift in the mail. Put together a care package filled with their favorite snacks, a cozy scarf, handwritten letters, or a personalized ornament to remind them of your connection.

3. Start a Shared Holiday Tradition

Create a tradition that you can do together, no matter the distance. Whether it’s watching the same holiday movie, making cookies together virtually, or going through your photos from the past year, these traditions can become anchors in your LDR.

4. Share Your Schedule

The holidays are just generally a hectic time. Family commitments, last-minute shopping, and work parties are just the start. Keep your LDR partner(s) up to date on your schedule to avoid miscommunication. Knowing when you’re both available makes it easier to stay connected.

5. Start a Countdown

Create a fun holiday countdown—think of it as your personal advent calendar. I have a free adult-themed one here. Share a daily surprise like sweet texts, voice notes, or even steamy photos to keep the excitement alive until you reunite.

6. Reflect on the Year of Your LDR Together

The end of the year is a natural time for reflection. Use some of your time on a call to share your favorite times from the year. It's a good time to also share what you're excited for in the coming years.

7. Make Plans for the Future

If possible, start planning your next visit during the holiday season. Having a concrete date to look forward to can make the time apart feel more manageable. I always find it easier to say goodbye to my partner when we have our next visit already planned. 

8. Celebrate Your Own Way

Don’t feel pressured to celebrate the holidays like everyone else. Your relationship is unique. Focus on what works for both of you instead of trying to do what you're "supposed" to do.

9. Lean on Your Support System

It’s normal to feel lonely or even envious of couples who get to spend the holidays together. Talk to friends or family about how you’re feeling.

10. Keep the Fire Alive

Physical distance doesn’t have to mean emotional or sensual distance. Light one of our candles, send a flirty text, or write about your fantasies in our Ignite the Self journal.

11. Practice Gratitude

While the distance is tough, focusing on what you’re grateful for (like your LDR) can shift your mindset. Take some time to share with your partner(s).

12. Give Yourself Grace

Ugh, classic therapy saying right there. The holidays can amplify emotions, so it’s okay to feel sad, frustrated, or lonely. Be kind to yourself, and remember that these feelings are temporary. I'll be telling myself that this year too. 

Final Thoughts

LDRs during the holidays suck, but they can also be a time to strengthen your bond and get creative with how you show love. 

Have your own tips for surviving the holidays in an LDR? Share them in the comments below!